I know that this isn't a new picture, I just love it though. Leslie has made such a great Father. He always takes the time in his day to make Evelyn feel special. They have a couple of activities that they always do together: Playing the peeetar (guitar) and swinging in Evelyn's little red swing. Everytime Les heads upstairs to practice on his bass, Evelyn is right behind him, sometimes you can hear him up there strumming and she is singing her made up songs at the top of her voice, He even has her sit on his lap and strum away herself. Les and I particularly enjoy when she is picking and singing at the same time, with her eyes closed and her face showing deep emotions. She is usually singing something like " Well we just have to do it and do it right you know. That's all we are just gonna do it right...."
When they go out and swing together he has the patience to push her as long as she wants which is in the neighborhood of 30 mintes or more. I love to hear them out there talking and laughing, trying to out-do each other in the joking department. I too swing with Evelyn, I Just don't have the patience to do it endlessly like that.
I have also noticed that when Les is around, Ev will be more adventurous , whether it's with trying a new food or a new game or even tolerating a fear, she is always better with that sort of thing when Les is around. I think it's just that he is so much more patient than I am. Well he's patient with a little hint of "Dad-ness", you know a bit more committed when he asks her to do something.
Oh! Another thing that they do is smoke pipes together. She has a child size corn cob pipe and they sit out on the front porch together while he smokes his and she pretends to smoke hers. That's always great fun for her.
An aside here.... Last night we were at a local restaraunt and the only seats that were open were right in front of the tv. Not good as we are still having trouble with Bean and her tv fears. So i get her all settled in and she is copacetic and then WHAM!!! Shrek the Halls, the Shrek Christmas special comes on and she absolutely freaks the hell out. Now think about this from Bean's point of view: nice dinner, tv is neutral and then suddenly there is a big, ugly green man talking loudly and being upset and belching and hollering , then there was a scene where the gingerbread man was screaming in terror over something, Santa I think. So we spend the ENTIRE meal talking Bean dowm from a major freak out. Then as we were getting ready to leave at 8:30pm what comes on??????A Pooh Christmas!! WTF!!!! Who plays Pooh for the younger kids AFTER Shrek for the older ones?!?!?!!? ABC that's who. Now if Pooh had been on while we were there, no problemo, Les and I could have even had a decent adult conversation. sigh.
Now we are not huge tv folks. We do have tv, we watch movies. Bean has watched bits of tv her whole life, it's just that recently it freaks her WAY out. It seems silly to me and it is so hard for me to be patient with it. It really took everything that I had last night to remain calm and comforting and not just start griping and being "Nag Mom". At this point I think it's just that she is a bit used to acting afraid and then she is afraid. She just can't seem to take the quick changes and wierdness that is inherent in about 95% of tv shoes and movies these days I can get her to watch and enjoy old musicals, Charlie Brown Christmas, Pooh movies and Big Big World ( I know sis, but she loves Snook. ) and she will watch musical concerts and live performances of Bach's Mass in B Minor. Another thing is that she can take some imagery but if the sound is strange or threatening or loud- she's gonna freak. Like last ngiht, the loudest Bean reaction came when there was a big loud burp from Shrek, which was hard for me becasue to me it was funny, and she wasn't even looking at the tv.
Any advice out there? I am stumped as to what to do next. This seems so silly and it's going to be a problem over the holidays as I do not expect or want anyone that we may visit to turn off the tv's and re-arrange what they normally do. As we were headed out the door for a birthday party , Bean asked " Mama is there going to be a tv on there?" - this is how it is. There was a tv there, and it was on, playing Cinderella, she acted afraid for like 2 minutes and then when the other kids weren't bothered, she wasn't either so that was cool and maybe that's the key- other kids who are not afraid. Then agian Cinderella is mostly innocuous.
Sorry to go on about this but it has been a pain in the ass. I really would appreciate any advice.
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